Wednesday, 13 January 2010

  • I L... Lov- Regret Saying It To You.

    I remember the first time anyone ever said they love me that wasn't a girl friend or a relative.

    During the summer, mid June to be exact, before my sophomore year of high school, I was struggling through marching band camp and daily band practices. For those of you who are not familiar with marching band, the people in the band with you are pretty much the only people you will have contact with for the first three months of any school year. Since I was spending so much time with the band, I was able to make a few great friends. On the last day of band camp, on the bus ride home actually, I even got a boyfriend, who I'll call David. David and I had only known each other for about a month, but really hit it off during practices, and he asked me out as we sat together and started drifting to sleep on the musty bus. Romantic, right?

    Three days later, I was logging onto Facebook, hoping that someone would write on my wall or something to help me pretend I was free from the confines of my house. Instead, I saw a message that said someone had sent me a Free Gift. Excited, I clicked the link. After I viewed the gift, I sat there in shock for what felt like a long time.

    David had sent me a pixelated rose, and had added a message that said "I Love You."

    I had to reread the words a couple of times. What? He loves me? But we've only been going out for three days! What was wrong with him?

    Rather than reply with words I figured I'd regret, I sent him a cute smiley face back, hoping the matter would pass. But less than three days later, he said the words again, this time to my face, before he had even had our first kiss or even our first date.

    I reluctantly said the words back. Why? Because of a couple of reasons. First, I can't stand hurting people. It's a gift and a curse at the same time. If I had said that I didn't love him, he would have been crushed, and that would have upset me to no end. Second, I didn't want to appear rude if I just blew right past that all too important phrase. And third, because I was young and in a brand new relationship, and I of course mistook those "new relationship sparks" for something a lot more than they actually were.

    The relationship continued for about a month and a half more, and it was pretty rocky once we got to know each other. David turned out to be the worst type of possessive: if he didn't know where I was at all times, he would freak out. He also spoke badly of literally every guy I talked to that wasn't him or a member of my family. Finally, after weeks of a mix between happiness, anger, and tons of confusion, David broke up with me due to rumors that I was going to break up with him to go out with my friend. He had chosen to believe others rather than the girl he "loved." For a year and a half afterwards, we barely talked to each other. When we did, the confrontations were nasty and accusations flew everywhere. Now, though, we are attempting to be civil to each other, and often joke about what happened.

    If there is anything in my life that I regret, it has to be wasting the most important phrase of anyone's life on a flimsy relationship that crashed and burned. Saying "I love you" is a promise, in my opinion, and, in relationships, shouldn't be tossed around the way it is between friends. I wish that the first time I had said the phrase was a few months ago, when I first told my current boyfriend that I love him. That was the first time I actually meant it, and I felt silly for telling him that when, not too long ago, I had said the same thing to a boy who I was barely in a relationship with.

    When was the first time you ever said "I love you" to someone? Did you mean it, or was it just thrown out there to resolve a situation?

Tuesday, 12 January 2010

  • Lack Of Creativity 1.

    I've been working on math pretty much all night, which means that my creativeness has deserted me. I still wanted to post SOMETHING, though, so I guess this is what I have: something to let you know a little more about me.

    What if your boyfriend/girlfriend went through your cellphone?
    It would sort of bother me that he didn't trust me enough and felt the need to go through my phone, but I don't have anything on there that would get me in any sort of trouble or under suspicion.

    Do you have someone who you can be your complete self around?
    I am my complete self all the time, regardless of who I'm with. I don't let the presence of others alter how I choose to be. That's weird.

    Have you hugged anyone in the last 72 hours?
    Of course. I love a good hug.

    Do you straighten your hair often?
    Practically every day, sadly.

    Do you the hate last girl you had a conversation with?
    My little sister? No. We're pretty close, actually.

    If you are up after 3 am, what are you most likely doing?
    Either talking on the phone to my boyfriend, surfing the web, or just listening to music.

    Have you ever hugged a complete stranger?
    Of course. Most of them appreciated it, too.

    Is there a girl that knows a lot about you?
    My sister does, and my close girl friends do. I don't really have a best girl friend, now that I think about it.

    Are you listening to music right now?
    Yes. The Beauty & The Tragedy by Trading Yesterday.

    Next time you will kiss someone on the lips?
    Probably the next time I see my boyfriend.

    Are you nice to everyone?
    I try to be, but my long list of pet peeves usually prohibits me from doing so.

    Have you ever cried from being so mad?
    A few times, yes. I cry very easily.

    Have you told anybody you loved them today and meant it?
    i dont think i have said it today

    Do you have anything you'd like to say, but cant?
    I have a lot of things I want to type in a blog, but my writing ability is currently low due to the math session I just had.

    Is there someone who continuously lets you down?
    Actually, yes. A friend of mine who keeps swearing she's done messing around with this one guy, only to fall all over him again the next time he says something sweet.

    Are you ready to get out of this town?
    Yes. Too much drama here. I'm ready to go meet entirely new people.

    What are you doing tomorrow?
    Panera in the morning with my sister, then school, then pit orchestra practice, the chair test practice, then homework, etc.

    How important is trust?
    It's the base of every relationship, really. To me, love is built upon trust.

    Are you the oldest of your siblings?
    No. I'm the second oldest out of 4.

    What is the song your listening to?
    Amaranth by Nightwish.

    When was the last time you were truly, completely happy with your life?
    When I got accepted to my first college, because I'd basically spent the last two years convinced I would never make it into a good school.

    Did you have a good day yesterday?
    It was another lazy Sunday. Not excellent, but not bad either.

    What color shirt are you wearing?
    I'm wearing a black tank top underneath a white tank top.

    What are you looking forward to in the next three months?
    My boyfriend's birthday, spring break, performing in the musical, and other small activities.

    What were you doing at 4 this morning?
    Sleeping.

    Are you happier now than you were three months ago?
    Yes I am, but not significantly. I was happy then, I'm just happier now.

    Has anyone said they love you in the last week?
    Yes, my boyfriend.

    Are you happy?
    Very much so.

    Do you think you can love someone without trusting them?
    Not at all. If you don't trust someone, you can't give yourself completely to them, which, to me, is a part of love.

    How many windows are open on your computer?
    Four.

    So, the person you like, their name starts with a M, doesn't it?
    Sorry, you are wrong. Good try though.

    Last TV show you watched?
    Wizards of Waverly Place. I am such a child.

    Last thing you put in your mouth?
    An ice cube.

    What plans do you have for the weekend?
    Hang out with my boyfriend and my best friend.

    Who did you text first this morning?
    My boyfriend.

    Ever been to Hollywood?
    Not exactly.

    Have you broken someones heart lately?
    Definitely not.

    Do you have a best friend?
    Yes! My best guy friend for 7 years and counting.

    You love winter, right?
    When it snows, of course I do. Otherwise, let the warm weather come.

    When are you going to see a guy named Tyler next?
    Probably at school tomorrow.

    Have you ever had blonde streaks?
    Nope. I don't really believe in dying hair blonde.

    Do you shop at American Eagle?
    Nope. Too generic of a store.

    Why do you like the person you have feelings for?
    Because he makes me feel like a person to be cherished and loved rather than a random girl to "have fun" with. We fit together so well. It's amazing.

    Do you crack your knuckles?
    Yes. It's such a bad habit.

    Are you an alcoholic?
    I don't drink at all. I can't bear the thought of being in such a state as drunkenness.

    Do you have any pets?
    Yes. The family has 5, but only one of them is truly MINE: my Persian cat, Meeshoo.

    Do you think the world is going to end in 2012?
    Nope.

    Do you like to draw?
    Nah. I gave up drawing after an art teacher told me that if I were to choose being an artist as a career, I would starve to death.

    What colour is your cell phone?
    Black. I hate my phone. It's a piece of crap.

    Does it flip or slide?
    Neither. It's a shitty touch screen that doesn't work half the time. Thanks, Sprint.

    Do you own a car?
    Not technically.

    Did you eat chocolate today?
    Yes. I love chocolate.

    Why did you last throw up?
    I wasn't feeling too well, I believe.

    Want to get married?
    Yes ma'am. That'd be nice.

    And do you want kids?
    Yes, but no more than three.

    You love meat, don't you?
    I love steak to no end. You have no idea how great my love for steak is.

    Do you like anyone right now?
    Why yes, of course.

    Do you get along with your parents?
    Most of the time. My mom is easier to get along with than my dad.

    Do you hate anyone?
    No. Hate is such an ugly word. There are people I dislike, but I won't let myself hate anyone.

    Do you hate commercials?
    not really

    Are you doing this because you're bored?
    yeah

    If your cell phone broke, would your parents make you pay for a new one?
    Well, I could just get my phone replaced because of my plan. But other than that, I might have to.

    Is there a member of the opposite sex on your mind?
    Yes, and on the other end of the phone. Just guess who it is.

    Do you know anyone who would just drop everything to come see you?
    A whopping 3 people.

    Who was the first person you talked to today?
    My boyfriend, of course.

    Can you remember the last time you really liked someone?
    At this very moment.

    Your best friend tells you you have a drug problem, you say?
    False. I've never done drugs and I don't believe I ever will.

    Do you still pinky promise?
    Yes. I do.

    Is the person you last texted single?
    I'm actually not sure. There is some complicated mess going on right now with that, and I would rather not get involved with it.

    Do you think you can last in a relationship for 3 months?
    Yes. My current relationship has been going for over six months.

    What did you have for breakfast?
    Triscuits. <3

    Will you talk to someone on the phone tonight?
    I am.

    Today, would you rather go forward a week or back?
    Neither.

    Could you go out in public, looking like you do now?
    I have been out in public all day like this.

    What were you doing at 12 last night?
    Doing laundry. -_-

    Are you wearing short shorts?
    False. I'm wearing jeans.

    When you say you don't care do you mean it?
    Mostly.

    Do you plan on sleeping in tomorrow?
    Sadly, no. I have school to attend. D:

    If you could, what's one thing that you'd take back from your past?
    Nothing, really. I've learned from everything that's happened to me.

    Do you like the taste of beer?
    Not at all. It tastes so disgusting.

    This time last year were you single or taken, if taken then by who?
    I think I was still single, but in the process of getting back with my ex boyfriend.

    What's on your mind?
    How my friend and her boyfriend just broke up and I can only console her through the computer.

    The last person to tell you "I love you" of the oppisite sex?
    My boyfriend.

    Do you want a relationship right now?
    I love the one I am in, thank you.

    Can you remember the last time you really liked someone?
    Wasn't this question already asked?

    Are you wearing something that belongs to someone else?
    I am wearing my boyfriend's hoodie.

    Who was the last person you took a picture with?
    I really have no idea.

    Is there anything you're holding back and not saying to someone?
    Sort of. I've said it to an extent.

    What are you listening to?
    Brace Yourself by Dropping Daylight.

    Have you ever received a text message that made you cry?
    Yes. Quite a few.

    How many people do you currently have feelings for?
    One.

    How has this past week been for you?
    Lazy. Nothing really big has happened.

    Who did you last talk on the phone with?
    I'm talking to my boyfriend.

    Would you kiss anyone you have texts from in your phone?
    I would and I have.

    Have you ever fallen asleep in the opposite sex's bed?
    Yeah. :D Those were great naps.

    Last person you were in a car with?
    Myself, driving home from pit orchestra practice.

    Are you the same person as you were at the beginning of 2009?
    Not at all.

    Has anything happened to you within the past month that has made you upset?
    Not necessarily upset.

    Who was the last person you talked to last night before bed?
    My boyfriend. Notice how he's in a lot of these answers, survey? Yeah.

    You never know what you got until you lose it? True or false?
    Somewhat. Sometimes it's a gift to be let free from "it", but sometimes that "it" was exactly what you needed

    Do you want to see somebody right now?
    I'd love to see my boyfriend.

    What does your favorite pillow look like?
    Black and red with a black floral pattern.

    What curse word(s) do you use the most?
    No idea. I don't count.

    If your parents didn't like the person you were dating, would you dump them?
    Not really. They hated my last boyfriend, but I dated him for a while despite that.

    Do you know what the last person you kissed is doing right now?
    Talking on the phone with me, in his bed.

    Would you rather be the heart breaker or get your heart broken?
    Broken. It really bothers me when I hurt other people. I don't like doing it.

    Are you afraid of getting your heartbroken by the person you're with?
    Not at all. I trust him fully, which is a first in any relationship I've been in.

    Who comforted you last time you cried?
    My boyfriend. [Alright, I'm tired of typing that phrase, so I'm calling him by his name.]

    Are you giving your all to someone who doesn’t care?
    He definitely cares.

    Do you have any dead flowers in your room?
    Yeah. Bunch of old corsages.

    Why did you last cry?
    My past surprise attacked me.

    Do you trust the last person you kissed?
    I fully trust Sean.

    Do you need to dye your hair?
    Nope. I like my hair color.

    Does your heart hurt right now?
    Not one bit.

    Are you questioning anything in your life at this moment?
    My future. I have this fear of growing up, you see.

    Who last made you feel not good enough?
    Smart people, for sure.

    Are you cheating on someone right now?
    NO. I could never do that.

    Love or money?
    Love. As long as I'm happy.

    Do you know anyone who's been in jail?
    Yes. My cousin.

    Have you ever thrown yourself on your bed...and missed?
    Hahahaha I don't think so.

    Can you eat with dirty socks in front of you?
    Not really. Feet creep me out intensely. I don't get it, but I absolutely cannot stand feet.

    Do you ever have a constant reel of thoughts that keeps you from falling sleep?
    Practically every night, except for when I fall asleep on the phone.

    Did the Kool-Aid guy scare you when you were little?
    Nope. I didn't see much of him.

    How do you react when you see a guy cry?
    I start crying whenever I see someone else crying. No joke.

    Do you have a difficult time figuring out what you want?
    Yes, sometimes.

    What was the last thing somebody wrote on you?
    Haha I don't know.

    If you had to create a new day in the week, where would you put it?
    Between Friday and Saturday.

    What's worse: losing people or being replaced?
    Being replaced quickly.

    Are you short?
    No, I'm actually taller than I'd like to be.

    Do you care if your socks are dirty?
    Most of the time, yes. When I'm tired and my feet are really cold, I grab the first pair of socks near me.

    Are you double jointed?
    Nope. Pigeon-toed, though.

    Are you currently frustrated with a boy?
    Can't say that I am.

    Have you ever had your heart broken?
    Yes. Yes I have.

Saturday, 09 January 2010

  • People Lost To Individuality.

    Yesterday, I chatted with an old friend. He had somehow found me on Facebook despite my very confusing FB name. I was surprised and happy, added him, and we began messaging each other, trying to get updates on what has happened since we went to camp together years ago.
    At first, the conversation was going great- he was still as funny as I remembered, and we got along just like we used to. We were both enjoying ourselves until we started discussing music.
    I asked him a question about what I remembered to be his favorite band, Green Day. He was obessed- had practically all of the CDs, countless t-shirts and ticket stubs, and knew the lyrics to every single song.
    Almost immediately, he replied.
    "Green Day? Ugh, I don't like them anymore. They've become so mainstream."
    Confused, I asked him to elaborate.
    "Well, now everyone likes them. They're on the radio n shit more, too. Now that everyone likes them, idk, they've become less cool to me."
    I sat there staring at the screen in disgust for perhaps 20 seconds before I could reply. How could this kid, who once loved a band that they were practically a part of his soul, toss them aside just because they're selling more CDs?
    Which leads to my main question: How far will people go to be "individuals?"
    To bring up another example, I asked a few of my friends a few weeks ago if they had seen the New Moon movie. They were in love with Twilight, and usually talked of nothing but. All four of them said almost the exact same thing:
    "Twilight's too popular now. It's no fun liking it if everyone else is."
    It's astonishing to me how people are willing to trade something they love, cherish, and idolize for the sake of being a complete individual. So many people nowadays throw away music, books, clothes, and movies that they used to know everything about, used to practically worship- at least until everyone else started liking it.
    Is being an individual so much more important than holding onto the things that made you an individual in the first place? I can sort of understand where they're coming from; they don't want to be lost in a sea of fans that probably like what they do for all the wrong reasons.
    But individuality shouldn't come from what you like, but why and how you like what you do, and what it means to you. My friend loved Green Day because the music spoke to him in a way that no other music had. It fit him so well, it was like he had found his music soulmate. That should have been more important to him than the growing number of fans the band was getting. He's trying so hard to be an individual that he's losing what essentially makes him, him.

    Have you ever given up something because it suddenly became "cool"?

Friday, 08 January 2010

  • Currently
    Come What(ever) May
    By Stone Sour
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    Officially a Xanga Nub.

    So as I was attempting to set up a half-decent Xanga profile, stumbling around the site and creating ugly profile backgrounds, I paused to read some of the most popular blogs, top blogs, and recent blogs. As I read increasingly more well written blogs, I grew thoroughly embarrassed by my sad excuse for a first blog, my half-assed profile, and my complete lack of friends.
    At first, the tiny, comforting part of my brain soothed, "You're new, you shouldn't be too hard on yourself."
    But then the tougher, bullshit-is-not-allowed side shoved its way past the other side and screamed, "Do you really want your first impression on this site to be one of a confused, blog-handicapped nub?"
    The tough side one.
    As a result, I'll be going through more blogs, figuring out what people like to read and how not to embarrass myself completely. Adding friends will also be on the To-Do list.
    So if you see me around the site, please try to refrain from laughing.

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